My blog post from earlier this week was an article (taken from brainline.org) about things not to say to someone with a brain injury. After I posted it, I became concerned that I may be giving the impression TBI survivors prefer isolation. Or giving readers the idea that they don't want to be talked to and it just may be safer to leave them alone. This was not my intent because, based on my experience with TBI, I think it is far from the truth! TBI survivors still desire relationship and still want, and need, to communicate.
So, as a follow up to that post, here is an article from brainline.org titled 10 Things People With a Brain Injury Would Like to Hear (http://www.brainline.org/content/2013/09/10-things-people-with-a-brain-injury-would-like-to-he.html).
Every individual’s experience with traumatic brain injury is unique, but there are many common symptoms and emotions, that may be accompanied by difficulties with pain, and the challenges of maintaining relationships.
BrainLine asked our online community to share the things they would most like to hear from their friends and family, and the list below captures a few of the many responses so generously provided by people with TBI.
1. I'm sorry. How can I help?
2. Please tell me what having a TBI is like. Can you tell me where I can read more aboutTBI?
3. I don't know how you feel, but you are my friend and I will always be there for you.
4. I admire your willpower. You will get through this.
5. I know I don't understand what it's like, but I will try my hardest to be patient and understanding.
6. Take your time — we are not in a hurry.
7. When are you going grocery shopping, I want to go, too. Or, what yard work can I come do?
8. I don't know what to say but I'm sorry it happened to you.
9. The you that is YOU hasn't changed. You just have a harder time thinking than you used to.
10. I will bring you some delicious healthy brain foods and snacks — and come to sweep and do laundry, but don't worry, I won't stay too long.
– Heal Your Concussion